Making a good first impression is absolutely priceless and should never be underestimated, regardless of the situation or circumstance. The opportunity of meeting someone new presents unlimited possibilities, and for that reason, should be valued and handled accordingly. However, meeting new people, whether socially or professionally, can be a bit stressful and anxiety provoking; particularly if these new people are potential employers or first dates.
Since first impressions are typically made within the first ten seconds of meeting someone new, it’s especially important to be prepared, since we only get one shot at a first. Here are 5 tips that, if executed every time we meet someone new, should guarantee a home run and leave them with the awesome impression every Alpha male deserves.
Five Tips:
1. Prepare: We don’t always know when we’ll meet someone new, but for those anticipated times when we can prepare in advance, begin by addressing personal grooming and wardrobe. Come prepared in a clean, wrinkle-free, “appropriate for the occasion” outfit. Make certain your clothing represents the you, you want others to see.
Even more essential than clothing preparedness is personal hygiene. People can usually overlook a minor fashion faux pas, but not cleanliness and grooming. Go the distance by addressing all head and facial hair, whiten teeth if needed, and trim fingernails – in addition to your daily hygiene routine. In a nutshell, look your best!
Life is full of surprises, so, unfortunately, not all new meetings are expected. For those times when you’re not prepared, focus on etiquette and manners. Don’t get hung up on what you are or aren’t wearing, or your overdue haircut and 5 o’clock shadow. Instead, impress them with your undeniable style that screams “gentleman” to save the day!
2. Make eye contact: Locking eyes with someone sends many positive messages… provided it doesn’t turn into a staring match. The mere act connects and engages people, and typically wins their attention. Perhaps more than anything, making eye contact signals and suggests to the recipient that you’re an upstanding, trustworthy guy who is worth their time and consideration.
3. Smile: Smiling is disarming, and sends a message of friendliness and warmth that invites others to smile along with you. When smiles are exchanged, people feel more at ease and tend to drop their guard. Smiling has a way of cutting to the chase by making people feel more relaxed, comfortable, and receptive, so show those pearly whites immediately upon meeting.
4. Shake Hands: Whether it’s a man or woman who’s being introduced, extend your hand for a handshake. Put it out there with an energy that shows you want to be there… then give ’em your best! This is not the time for limp, reserved handshakes. It’s a time to show enthusiasm and interest in meeting someone new. Handshakes show respect for others, while displaying an openness and friendliness on your part.
5. Greeting: Ok, you’ve got the handshake down, now it’s time for your best line… no, not that one! “Hello, it’s very nice to meet you.” “Hello, I’ve heard so much about you.” “Hello, thank you for inviting me to your party. You have a beautiful home.” You get the idea. We need to accompany every handshake with a greeting or introduction. The typical one-liners are totally acceptable, but so are original lines, provided they’re appropriate. Whichever you choose to use, say it like you mean it. Stay present and focused, and match your smile and handshake with an upbeat, friendly intro.
Meeting new people can always be a little intimidating, but never allow it to stand in your way of opportunity and advancement. Utilizing these 5 steps will ensure a smooth and successful introduction that will leave everyone you meet with a great first impression!
by Aaron Marino
