Aaron Marino of alpha m. talks about what an alpha male should be today. He should not falling prey to the ‘bystander effect’. The bystander effect is a social psychological phenomenon that refers to cases where individuals do not offer any means of help in an emergency situation to the victim when other people are present. As the number of bystanders increases, any given bystander is less likely to notice the situation, interpret the incident as a problem, and less likely to assume responsibility for taking action.
Aaron encourages all viewers to get involved if somebody needs help. Don’t wait for someone else to help. It’s our duty as humans to help others in need. Get CPR trained too. Aaron helped a motorcyclist and who was in an accident. He ended up directing people to take care of this guy. Under the same topic, a viewer sent an email about how to be decent humans and men.
Don’t just stand around– do something
This isn’t really a question but rather just something I wanted to share with you after watching a couple of your alpha M project videos. It’s about doing the right thing even though it might put yourself in danger; AND it’s kind of a damsel in distress story too, and who doesn’t like a good hero story right?
So I was sitting alone in my apartment one night, playing StarCraft II at 1am like so many geeks in my profession do (I’m an IT guy). I had the volume in my headphones turned up pretty loud. They were the type of headphones you put on to cover your ears to block out sound. Anyway, so I was playing the game, and I heard screaming. At first, I thought it was just the game. Then it hit me: I’m not killing girls in this game…wtf? So, I took my headphones off and listened closer.
Sure enough I could hear it louder. So I went outside to see what it was. In the parking lot, I see a girl, not much older than maybe 19 wearing nothing but underwear (no bra), screaming bloody murder curled up in a ball in the middle of the lot.
I ran up to her to ask her what was going on, and she blurted out some sort of incoherent panicking language, but pointed up to her apartment building. Something about her boyfriend trying to kill her. Being the alpha m I am, I tried to get her to get into my apartment to call the police right then. At first, she wouldn’t, until she saw said boyfriend coming down from their apartment. This was the motivation she needed to literally- run into my apartment.
As soon as we were both in, I locked the door behind me. I quickly got her a long sweater to put on, and called the police. After talking to dispatch, I gave her a drink of water, and tried to calm her down. I learned that they had been drinking, and he made an unwanted advance on her so she started screaming. To stop her from screaming, he choked her, pushed her up against the wall, and put his fingers down her throat (she had been coughing blood after she came in).
Needless to say, I was furious. I seriously wanted to go throw the guy into oncoming traffic, but instead I kept my cool and waited for the police. What I didn’t know was that there was a small crowd of about 5 people outside my door, trying to keep this guy from knocking down my door. That was when the police showed up.
Everything from this point on was about what you’d expect. The guy got arrested (all the while staring me down like a piece of meat), and taken to jail. The girl asked the officer if she could get a ride to her parents house, but he refused! Protect and serve my left testicle…
Anyway, again, being the alpha m I am, I offered to stay with her while she packed some things, and take her to her parent’s house. As I dropped her off, she gave me a hug, and said that I was truly a hero.
Here’s what gets me: She was screaming bloody murder. In my complex, there were at least 24 units facing each other with the parking lot in between. I KNOW that they could hear her because I heard her over my headphones blaring. That, and she banged on EVERY DOOR on the way down the three flight of stairs it took her to stumble down on the way to the parking lot, and out of all those units – only myself, and one other couple came to see what was going on. THREE PEOPLE. I was the ONLY guy that stood up for that girl to protect her from getting the crap beat out of her again. The ONLY man that did the right thing even though I knew that her boyfriend could be coming down with some kind of weapon.
This is why I like your work so much. There needs to be more people like us in the world. More people who care about the important things in life. Who care about what’s right. There seems to be a shortage of REAL men in our society lately. I only hope that we can bring them back.
